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Jul 14, 2007, 6:18 PM

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I just brought home a Maltese-Poodle puppy two days ago, and she has completely bonded with me. She follows me everywhere I go (I mean EVERYWHERE) and even when I shower, she insists on coming into the bathroom. When I'm showering and she can't get near me, she starts whining and barking even though she's IN the same bathroom and I'm just 1 foot away from her!

When I leave her alone (locked up in my room or in the apartment alone), she starts whining and barking A LOT. I know it's bad for me to let her out when she starts doing that but because we live in an apartment, I cannot afford to have the neighbours complain if she's too noisy.

Are there any methods to get her to slowly get used to the idea that I'm not going to be around her 24/7? She's 4.5 months old now, and I want to establish good behaviour now rather than suffer from it later.
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Old Kaki

Aug 2, 2007, 1:35 AM

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Re: [Mellissa] Getting Too Attached? [In reply to] Can't Post

Hmmmm, your dog sounds like a very clingy dog & I usually can't stand clingy dogs coz it really gets to our nerves... seriously! It'll get to your too soon but maybe not now coz you just got her & you love her so much. Try this out. I'm actually teaching my Amber this now. It's actually OB training & usually for Intermediates only but I think it's good for those doggies who are very clingy & get stressed very very easily when the owner's out from their sight. Ask your dog to sit & stay. You walk away & go into the kitchen/toilet/bedroom or where ever out from your dog's sight & then just wait for 1 sec & come out again & praise her like crazy for waiting there & not making noise. Make sure you come out before she starts getting stressed up & whine & whine & whine for you. Do it several times a day. It may take some time before your dog will calm down. Next day, hide for 3sec & come out & praise her & give her a treat. Each day you increase the time, longer & longer. You dog must understand, that you WILL come back even if you're away for ten min, 2 hours or more! It must know that you've not disappeared & abandoned it or whatsoever your dog's thinking you're doing to it... Try this many times a a day & see what happens after that. And now, try not to allow your dog to follow you around everywhere also. You may accidentally step on her & spill something hot on her. So make her sit stay or lie down in her favorite spot in one corner until you're done with your work & then you release her. Try this out & then tell me how it works out yeah!?


Sep 26, 2007, 1:42 PM

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Re: [Mellissa] Getting Too Attached? [In reply to] Can't Post

My Yorkie is also like this-he has what they call separation anxiety. He is now 1 year and 3 months old and I find that he is getting better. He is a perfect dog except for the anxiety. When I got him when he was 3 months old, he was already 'sticky'. I heard that they do get better when they are 2-3 years old-I am not sure about that. What I do know is he does better in a landed house where he gets to stare out of a window when we are going out then in the condo. Whenever we are at a friend's house and we go out and he gets to stand on a small stool to look out of the window and see us drive off, he is fine and do not whine but if we leave him in the condo he cries but stops after a few minutes. I never go back to see him or pat him when he whines/cries coz it will only make the behaviour worse.Weird.

One thing for sure, he doesn't follow me around the house as much now compared to puppy time. My balcony is glass so his favourite pastime now is sit at the balcony and watch what is happening around and if not, he play and chew his bullysticks. Be patient, they are just like little kids. At 4.5 months, your dog is very much like a baby needing mommy's attention a lot. Just don't pat them when they cry/whine and do it a lot when they are quiet.


(This post was edited by potter on Sep 26, 2007, 1:47 PM)


Dec 17, 2007, 7:31 PM

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Re: [Mellissa] Getting Too Attached? [In reply to] Can't Post

Hai Mellissa ! I feel that may be your dog is lonely. You can actually train your dog by putting it in a day care. Some pet shops have very excellent service, e.g they have special air-con rooms, time for dogs to play and socialise.


Dec 18, 2007, 6:50 AM

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Re: [Amber.Faith] Getting Too Attached? [In reply to] Can't Post

I totally agreed with what Amber.Faith said. The sit-stay out of sight is good. But you will need some proper guidance to even sit the dog. And then, teach her to stay. Perhaps you can refer to people from any of the dog training schools how to do that. Just don't handle your dog too rough because its still a pup.

And about boarding dogs at day care centers. I don't know whether that is a good idea or not. But i definitely WONT send my dog to pet hotels. Not because i cant afford it, it is because I've seen most the boarding place's handlers aren't really dog trainers or professionals. When they play with the dog they used all sorts of redundant/wrong commands and it will confuse your dog about what the human actually asking for. It will be bad for obedience training later on. Unless you know the boarding place's owner or their workers have knowledge on dog training and their handling is good, other wise i suggest you don't send your dog for boarding. Try the sit stay out of sight. It will work over time.

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Dec 27, 2007, 7:29 PM

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Re: [Mellissa] Getting Too Attached? [In reply to] Can't Post

put your dog in a room and you walk out

immediately come back in and praise.

go out close the door, wait 2-3 seconds come back in if your dog is quiet. if not wait a while till he quiets down. The moment your doggy stops whinning immediately come in and praise. (as you practise increase this wait time too)


repeat and increase the duration each time

keep the "training" under 5 minutes. after that, playtime

(This post was edited by zephyros on Dec 27, 2007, 7:34 PM)

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Aug 5, 2009, 11:01 AM

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Re: [Mellissa] Getting Too Attached? [In reply to] Can't Post

hi all, I don't know if any of you have ever had this problem, but my one year old Boxer isn't sleeping throughout the night, which results him in wandering around the house or trying to wake me up in middle of the night. We are pretty active with exercising every day, so I don't know what more I can do in that department. I've though about getting him some sort of unique dog beds o he can feel like he has a reliable place to be at night. Anyone have any advice??
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(This post was edited by peytonsawyer on Aug 5, 2009, 11:05 AM)

K9 Kaki

Aug 6, 2009, 7:16 PM

Post #8 of 8 (11959 views)
Re: [peytonsawyer] Getting Too Attached? [In reply to] Can't Post

do u walk him day time or night time? if this is the case, will advice u to walk him or jog with him during night time... the later the better just to wear him out... is there anyone with him during the day time? the reason might also be that the dog knows that he can only hang around with u all in the night when all of u are at home... and he will be all lonely again comes the morning... you can try to let him sleep in your room... and see how it goes...


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